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Dear Mistress,

I hope you have time to read this and reply and I would be most grateful.

I am in quite the conundrum.  I have always had largely kinky tastes and the past several years I have enjoyed intense CBT sessions with Mistresses, whereby they use a cane and other beautifully delicious forms of kinky paraphernalia on my bits and pieces. Sometimes it leaves marks and bruising that lasts for days, which to be honest I have always enjoyed.

There is now a slight complication as I have been seeing a woman who I suspect is quiet vanilla. She now wants to see me a few times a week and I am having to make excuses to see her as it’s hard to explain the bruising on my nethers. It’s all feeling a bit rushed and I’m thinking of breaking it off. She is almost perfect but I don’t want to end up trapped in a vanilla relationship! What would you advise Mistress?

Reggie, 34, Chelsea

Agony 3118

Dear Reggie,

Reading between the lines, I can feel two separate concerns coming from you here. One is the fear of getting caught and having to explain your private life. The other is a fear of intimacy and losing your personal space.

New relationships can be exciting and also terrifying at the same time as relationships largely involve compromise and giving up many of the things you enjoy, whether it be going out with the boys, having some precious me-time or using your private time to indulge in a little kinky play. Are you more concerned about your secret emerging or having to sacrifice the things you enjoy?

There is no need to rush into anything serious. A good relationship that will stand the test of time, will often work better if it emerges slowly and builds into something more solid than one that is forced quickly. Just be honest. Tell your lady friend that you enjoy spending time with her and adore her, but you want to take things slowly. It’s important to have your own interests and hobbies and a relationship that is formed on this basis, is more likely to last test of time over a relationship that involves one partner rushing the other into something serious before they are ready.

Now, onto to the sexual side of things. You use the words “suspect” your girlfriend is “quite vanilla’ which sounds to me like you may have dropped some hints to gauge her kink level, but have not actually discussed it with her. You could perhaps introduce her to kink starting at the milder end of the spectrum and then see how she responds. Start small and build over time to discover if you are matched sexually or not. I always say  – if you throw a frog straight into a pot of boiling water it will jump right out, but if you pop it into a pot of warm water and heat it slowly, then it will stay! You never know, she may be open to exploring pastures new.  Relax, enjoy and treat it as a wonderful new experience.

Whilst it’s imperative that you don’t rush, I wouldn’t be too tasty to write her off completely without exploring the possibilities. You just never know what ticks people’s boxes….and sometimes they do not even know until they have tried them!

Keep an open mind and see it as a possible opportunity to explore something new with someone you care about. If she stills shows no interest after you have made a concerted effort, well you can cross that bridge if and when you come to it, but then it will boil down to a decision whether the relationship or the kink is more important to you. There are no right or wrong answers, follow your gut instinct and it will not disappoint you.

Whilst it’s imperative that you don’t rush, I wouldn’t be too tasty to write her off completely without exploring the possibilities. You just never know what ticks people’s boxes….and sometimes they do not even know until they have tried them!

Keep an open mind and see it as a possible opportunity to explore something new with someone you care about. If she stills shows no interest after you have made a concerted effort, well you can cross that bridge if and when you come to it, but then it will boil down to a decision whether the relationship or the kink is more important to you. There are no right or wrong answers, follow your gut instinct and it will not disappoint you.

 

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