Hope your all well and enjoyed last weeks column. This week I am talking about the correct ways to act if you want lots of blow jobs from your partner. And also how to make first time sex the best!!! I think all men should read this!!!!
Dos and donts to getting blow jobs
A blowjob doesn’t have to be a job for her. The more comfortable and pleasing you make it for her, the more enthusiastic she’ll be about doing it more often.
That being said, some women simply aren’t down with going down. If that’s the case, try to find out why and if there’s anything you can do to make it better for her. If she’s still not on board, know that she’s not obligated to give oral sex. Otherwise, consider these rules for oral etiquette.
DON’T . . .
Pressure her: Guilt-tripping your gal into giving head will only succeed in making her resentful. Instead, stick to telling her how much you love her blowjobs and letting her decide if she wants to take a trip downtown.
Manhandle her head: Pushing her head down onto your penis while she’s giving oral can strain her neck and make it hard to breath. This will work in your favor some women are turned on by giving head because it puts them in control.
Bark orders: Commands like “deeper” or “slow down” can come off as criticism. And surely you’d never want to criticise a woman who’s giving you a blowjob! Giving guidance can be a good thing, though, if you phrase your requests in a positive way.
Leave her hanging: You’re fully satisfied after your orgasm, but she’s probably not – so don’t just zip up your pants and get on with your day. Let her know that her turn is next, even if it’s not right this second. Say: “I’m so relaxed right now and I really want to focus on you next. Give me a few minutes or an hour.” Just make sure she knows this isn’t the end.
DO . . .
Rave about it: Women love to know that they’re driving their guys wild, so don’t forget to speak up. The more you moan and tell her, ‘That feels so great,’ ‘You look so sexy right now,’ or ‘You are so good at this,’ the more into it she’ll be”. On the other hand, if you lay there silently, she may feel insecure and wonder if she’s doing it right.
Make her comfortable: The more physically comfortable a woman is during the act, the longer she can stick with it. So be considerate of how she’s situated down there. If she’s on her knees, give her a pillow to kneel on, or move to the bed. Hold her hair back if it’s getting in her mouth. Switch up positions so she doesn’t get a kink in her neck.
Tidy up downstairs: Be aware of your personal hygiene before unzipping. If you’ve just worked out or had a particularly sweaty day, a quick shower would be the polite thing to do. Just remember, the more pleasant the aroma, the better. A little manscaping can go a long way, too. Men who go hairless actually get more head, research finds. You don’t have to be completely bare, but try trimming your pubes down to ¼ inch to give her more access and prevent her from catching any curlies in her teeth.
Negotiate your exit strategy: Despite what you see in porn, many women do not enjoy swallowing or taking cum shots to the face. To make sure your big finish is as fun for her as the rest of the experience, give her a heads up before ejaculating and ask her where you can come.
Make first time sex the best
Even experienced men make rookie mistakes when they go to bed with a new woman for the first time. First-time sex gives her a sense of your generosity and how much you care about her. Nearly two-thirds of 2,385 women in a survey said they consider first-time sex an indicator of a relationship’s potential. Here’s how to finesse your audition.
Put in the time
The three-date rule is not reliable. The majority of women typically wait eight or more dates before sleeping with a man. She’ll drop hints when she’s ready. Your green light when she creates total privacy for the two of you. Has she invited you over for dinner and mentioned that her roommates are out of town? Take the hint.
Pay lip service
Lots of kissing reassures her that you’re not simply out for sex. Only one in seven women would consider sleeping with you without a makeout session first. And two-thirds of women have ended a relationship based on the first kiss. Avoid that fate by tracing her lips with your tongue, and alternate soft kisses with gentle sucking on her lips.
Spend at least 15 minutes kissing and caressing before moving below. Many women take about eight minutes to become aroused before they want clitoral stimulation, so double that and you should have her at the brink. Trace your hand along the outside of her hips, slowly working your way between her legs.
Use your head
If you’re receiving encouragement, kiss your way down. Fifty-two percent want you to spend at least 15 minutes south of the border. Using your tongue, make your first full stroke from her perineum to her inner labia, and then barely touch her clitoris. Stop. Let her breathe while you kiss her inner thighs. Repeat.
Ace the main event
10 to 20 minutes of intercourse is all they desire. Keep your Kama Sutra on the shelf, most women mwant to keep the positioning fairly tame at first. Have her lie back with her knees slightly bent, and place pillows under her hips, torso, and head. That’ll allow you to kneel between her legs and enter her as you simultaneously stroke her clitoris with your hand.
Upgrade your end game
Reassure her that you’re not just out for a one-night stand. Start with the obvious cuddling. Women want a good amount of time spent o closeness. It doesn’t take much. Even just taking her hand or laying your arm over her stomach is enough to make the point. And don’t forget the follow-up women want a phone call the next day, not a less-personal e-mail or text. Give her a quick buzz after work you won’t look overeager, but she’ll still feel wanted.