This week we are talking about first time sex, whether it’s your first time ever or your first time with a new partner. The does and dont’s.
And also as the Christmas period is about to come you’ll be doing lots of staying over at families houses so here are the tips on getting jiggy without getting caught.
First-time sexHere are my 10 commandments for first-time sex, whether it’s your first time ever or just with a new person.
1. Safety first. There’s no such thing as totally safe sex, but you sure can be safer. Make sure your wearing a condom and talk about your respective sexual histories. I know it may sound like I am putting a downer on it, but heterosexual women have a higher risk of contracting an STI (sexually transmitted infection) than men, so it’s up to you to take a proactive interest in your sexual health.
2. Don’t have too-high expectations. Sex generally improves as you get to know someone and become more comfortable with each other’s bodies. So don’t feel pressured to make it the best night ever, because this is just the first of many.
3. Breathe. First-time sex can be tense and nerve-wracking, not to mention painful sometimes. Taking long, deep breaths can help you relax and let go.
4. Don’t forget to enjoy foreplay. All the stuff that leads up to intercourse, kissing, touching, oral sex, is all part of the sexual experience it’s not just about penetration.
5. Make sure you’re amply aroused before intercourse. Not only do you want to be genuinely turned on, you want to be sufficiently lubricated. If you’re too dry, he’ll have trouble entering you, you’ll feel discomfort, and the friction can cause the condom to rip. So, keep water–based lube on hand just in case.
6. Speak up. Let them know what feels good, and what doesn’t. People crave feedback in sex, so don’t be shy about clueing them in.
7. Don’t assume they’re the expert. They may be getting a lot of his information about sex from porn and the tall tales of their buddies. And, even if they are experienced, every sexual encounter is unique. Theyre just as worried about pleasing you as you are about getting them off.
8. Don’t expect to have an orgasm or give your partner a orgasm. Of course, it’s great if you do. But, most women don’t climax at all and some take a while to get to know someone. Orgasms come with a sense of comfort and specific knowledge of each other’s bodies, and that takes time.
9. Don’t fake it. If you do, you’ll only be cheating yourself. Letting them know you came close and want to get there with them will keep them motivated.
10. Your penis may malfunction. Guys get anxious too. Premature ejaculation and erectile difficulty are common the first time a man sleeps with someone. If he has a problem, don’t make a big deal out of it or worry that there’s something wrong with you or your connection. More than likely, it will work itself out.
Having sex at your parents house
For most people, the Christmas season consists of a lot of traveling to visit family. If you’re spending the holidays with a significant other, that’s going to mean a trip to someone’s parents’ house. You’ll probably stay overnight, probably in a twin bed or on a futon and, for a variety of reasons that you’ll regret after your parents give you a shameful look the next morning, you’ll probably try to have sex.
1. Embrace the situation Try forcing yourselves to stay quiet. You’d be surprised how fun that can be.
2. Switch it up.
The best way to have sex within earshot of your parents is to not have sex within earshot of your parents. Sneak out and try to have sex in your car, or the bushes. The adrenaline rush can definitely increase your libido.
3. Have sex on the floor.
This might be surprising, but your old twin bed is really loud and uncomfortable. Throw a few blankets and pillows on the ground. Voila no squeaking bed frame.
4. Turn the TV on or something, anything.
This one should be the most obvious. No one wants their family members hearing them have sex, unless they’re a crazy person. Hopefully you have a TV or radio or something you can crank up to hide the beautiful and awkward sounds of your lovemaking. PRO TIP: Don’t crank it up so loud that it’s obvious you’re doing things, you want it just slightly louder than normal volume.
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