This week is for all my lady readers. This week I am talking about the best tips for women masturbating. And also ladies get your men to read this weeks column of you want him to give you the best oral sex of your life!!!!
Learn how to masturbate the right way and have incredible orgasms using this guide on self pleasure!
Learning how to masturbate is a great way to find out what turns you on and what kinds of physical touching and fantasies make you most likely to reach the big ‘O’.
1. Getting In The Mood — The most important thing you can do if you want to be sure that you climax when masturbating is first getting in the mood. Getting in the mood is something that varies greatly from person to person.
For some, they find that all they need to do is lie down on their bed to get in the mood. While for others, they like to drag it out by having a shower, applying some body lotion all over their body, lighting some candles, playing their favorite music and putting on something really comfortable before sitting down on a nice comfy chair.
2. Ensure Privacy — If you want to truly relax and get in the mood before you start masturbating, then make sure that you won’t be disturbed by anyone.
For most people, this means masturbation in their bedroom or doing it when their roommates/partner is not in the house. You might also find turning your phone to silent is a good idea too. This means that if you like getting vocal as you masturbate, you won’t have to worry about someone hearing you.
3. Your Clitoris — Most find that having a clitoral orgasm is far easier than having a vaginal orgasm when learning how to masturbate, so first we are going to focus on the clitoris. If you don’t already know about your clitoris, it’s the small nub of firm skin the gets slightly bigger when you’re aroused. It’s located just above your vagina and is concealed under small folds of skin. It’s very sensitive, especially right after you climax.
To stimulate it, try gently rubbing it with your fingers. You may find that it’s so sensitive, that it’s actually more pleasurable to provide it with indirect stimulation, rubbing around it, instead of touching it directly.
It’s best if you start off massaging it slowly and gently and gradually build up how intensely you touch it as you are reaching climax. Then as you climax, ease right off as it will be incredibly sensitive to touch.
4. Hitting Your G Spot — Another type of orgasm, that many prefer to regular clitoral orgasms, is the G Spot orgasm. But before you can start stimulating it, you need to actually find the G Spot. It only appears and becomes engorged when you are aroused.
Unlike you clitoris, it’s located inside your vagina on the front wall. It feel slightly rough to touch, very much like the top of your palate in your mouth.
There are a number of ways you can stimulate it. You can make a ‘come-hither’ motion with your fingers to massage it or you can hold your fingers pressed against it, and move the rest of your arm to stimulate it. How you do it is really up to you, but make sure to do some experimentation to find out what you enjoy the most.
5. Using Lube — If you have trouble reaching orgasm, or you just plain want to have a more pleasurable, sensual experience, then I strongly recommend using lubricant (usually called lube). There are many different types of lube whether it’s water based, oil based or made from something else. So make sure to experiment with each to find out which you prefer and to see which type helps to give you the strongest orgasms.
6. Using Toys — A great way to intensify your orgasms when learning how to masturbate is to use sex toys. There are a number of different ones that you can use.
Vibrators are probably the best, but make sure to spend a little extra when buying one so that you can get one with adjustably speeds. The vibrators that are stuck at a high speed can prove to be too strong & intense for some.
Dildos are great for replacing your man when he’s not around. You’ll also find that you a lot of dildos double up as vibrators.
While there a huge variety of different sex toys that you can use on yourself, the last one that I’m going to talk about using is the butt plug. Using a butt plug while masturbating is something many women (but not all) find to intensify their orgasms when they masturbate.
7. Porn — Some love porn when masturbating…some hate it. It’s all a matter of personal preference. The next time you have some time and are alone while masturbating, try watching some porn to see if it intensifies the experience for you. But don’t feel that you have to watch it. Some enjoy it, while others don’t.
8. Erotica — Many see erotic novels as the female equivalent of pornography. Again, they are not for everyone, but are definitely worth trying at least once to see if they have any effect on what you fantasise and think about while you masturbate.
9. More Powerful Tips, Tactics & Techniques — These techniques you have just read are some of my more basic tips on how to pleasure yourself and masturbate.
Women love when you go down on them, so why aren’t you?
What would you do if your lover refused to go down? A small survey showed these results –
10 percent swore they would leave.
30 percent would wonder if something was wrong with them or their partner.
47 percent would try to get to the root of the problem by discussing it directly.
Only about 13 percent said they could live without it.
That means, in my little survey, almost 90 percent of people considered a lack of oral sex as a BIG problem, so I’m bringing it up before your partner does. Guys: Whatever your reason for not going down, it’s time to give it another try! Here are 7 tips to help you quickly become an oral expert:
Tip #1: Spread the love. She loves it when you focus your attention on the clit. However, if you focus all your attention on one spot, it gets super sensitive bordering on painful. Mix it up! Use your entire tongue. Make it flat. Make it pointy. Make it soft. Make it rigid. The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings, and you can stimulate them all!
Tip #2: Start off slow. This is not fast food. This is a gourmet restaurant and she wants you to savor every moment. Kiss and nibble her inner thighs, use your lips or your breath on her labia. She feels every little nuance, and it all feels very, VERY good.
Tip #3: Skip the porn tricks. Guys, she is a regular, everyday woman. She is NOT a porn star. Plus, she can tell when you’re using Howard Stern’s alphabet technique (I KNOW you can be more creative than that!). Rather than trying something you saw on the boob tube, keep it simple. Try swirling your tongue around her clitoris in small circles, clockwise and then counter-clockwise. You’ll find the right spot, guaranteed.
Tip #4: Forget the game plan. If you come to the bedroom with a super specific end goal, say giving her a squirting orgasm, it can be a turn-off. Why? Because the moment it becomes goal-oriented rather than pleasure-oriented, she loses interest. Plus, she’ll feel like something is wrong with her if you try really hard and she just can’t get there. If you want her to be comfortable with squirting, try not to focus on it too much. She wants to get lost in the moment, not feel like you are trying to turn her into your favorite webcam girl.
Tip #5: Remember the golden rule. Think of all of the things you love when she goes down on you. Do you love gentle sucking? Nibbling? Light teeth? Deep suction? Great – maybe she does too! GENTLY try those techniques on her clitoris. After all, it is essentially a small penis with double the nerve endings.
Tip #6: DON’T forget the fingers! Once she is good and warmed up, get in there with your fingers! Many women enjoy one or two fingers inside their vagina while you kiss and suck on her clitoris. You may find her thrashing around in your bed from a blended orgasm when try this technique. Just be sure your fingers are very clean and that you have filed down any rough nail edges (see Tip #2 — she feels EVERYTHING down there).
Tip #7: Get INTO it! If she senses you’re feeling the least bit obligated or bored, she will shut down. Please be aware of how vulnerable she may feel lying there with her legs spread and try to be very complimentary and enthusiastic. I promise it will pay off — that little extra effort can turn a self-conscious woman into the lusty, naughty woman you’ve always wanted.