Hello Everyone,
So I have wrote a few times about how good I think it is to sext with your partner. But how do you know whether the time is right? This week I am talking about when you should or shouldn’t sext.
And also womens Viagra is about to hit the shops, but don’t get too excited, read on to find out more.
Chantelle xx
When should or shouldn’t you send a “Sext”
Sexting can take your relationship to a new sexiness level in two seconds flat. After all, there are few more effective ways to get your partner in the mood or give them the green light to advance things in the bedroom than teasing with images or explicit sentences of what’s to come. But before you hit Send, stop to think whether you should or shouldn’t be pressing send..…
Rule 1: Wait Till You Pass the 5-Date Mark
I’d hold off on initiating sexting until the relationship is a little more established and you’ve sussed out how sexually adventurous they are. Some people love it and others will be shocked. Don’t sext anyone you haven’t been on at least five dates with.
Rule 2: Take a Gut-Check Moment
Got a funny feeling about sending it? Wait. If your instincts tell you something isn’t quite right, don’t go there. The pros of sexting you can send on the spur of the moment when feeling particularly lusty is also its downside. Lust is a powerful emotion when we’re in the grips of it. When it wears off, what seems sexy at the time can feel either silly, sleazy, or perfect blackmail material.
Rule 3: Wait Till You’ve Had Sex
You should wait to sext until you’ve actually done-the-deed. If not, and you send it anyway, you are subject to possible rejection and could offend the person.
Rule 4: Make Sure You’re Down for What You’re Suggesting
You should also consider whether you’re actually down to do what you suggest in the sext before you send it off. All too often people develop a persona online or through their messaging that is quite different than who they truly are. That said, make sure what you say or do via sexting is actually something you’d say or do if the person were next to you.
Womens Viagra!!!!!!! But don’t get too excited just yet………………
A drug touted as the “Viagra for women” has finally been approved by a Food and Drug Administration advisory panel, bringing it one step closer to pharmacies everywhere. Rejected twice before, the FDA has until August 18 to make its final call on Sprout Pharmaceutical’s flibanserin, designed to increase dopamine and norepinephrine and decrease serotonin in women with seriously low libidos. But before you schedule an appointment with your Doctor in the hopes of scoring this one-of-a-kind drug, you’ve got a lot to learn about the little pink pill.
Surprise! It’s not actually “Viagra for Women.” Every media outlet has made the comparison between flibanserin and Viagra because the former is the first and only drug that treats sexual dysfunction in women but it’s about as opposite from Viagra as can be. Viagra is a medication that works to increase blood flow to the penis and correct mechanical problems that interfere with male sex. It’s taken just prior to sex. Taken once a day, every day, flibanserin works in the brain to alter certain neurotransmitters that are connected to sexual desire to restore a healthful, long-term appetite for sex.
It’s for women with hypoactive sexual desire disorder—not just anyone in a sex slum. HSDD is a diagnosed medical condition with super-strict criteria: The absence of any sexual thoughts or fantasy on a chronic basis causing significant personal distress. Typically in a long-term, monogamous relationship, a premenopausal woman with HSDD once had a desire for sex, but it’s long gone—think a year or more—and all other attempts, such as therapy, have failed to increase her sexual desire. Flibanserin is not appropriate for lack of desire due to a bad relationship, time pressures or anxiety, fatigue, medications, chronic disease, or lack of privacy, just to name a few.
It has side effects. Flibanserin’s side effects include dizziness, nausea, drowsiness, low blood pressure, and fainting, exacerbated by alcohol. And while that’s a pretty standard list where side effects are concerned—and few women will actually experience them—women who take flibanserin will still have to do so with caution. A lot of women who have low libido will turn to alcohol to aid in lowering their inhibition. Mixing the two in an attempt to feel aroused could ignite side effects a woman wouldn’t otherwise experience.
If it’s not for you, there are other options. If you don’t have HSDD, but you do have a low libido, you won’t be able to score flibanserin if it’s approved. But you can still increase our sexual desire. For example, if you are on birth control pills, check in with your health care provider about switching things up, because birth control pills can lower your testosterone and contribute to libido decline.