Sorry for the lack of column last week, this was unfortunately due to a bereavement. This did get me thinking though. As we get older we are faced with our own mortality. Does having a secret life or a career that people may not understand add to the complications we face when worrying about our end of life wishes? Whether you are a secret swinger, a cautious kinkster or have a career in the adult industry that your friends and family may not be aware of or accept, do you have anything in your will or last wishes that pertain to this? For example, do you have a trusted friend who will clear your laptop history, remove any incriminating equipment from your house, inform your clients etc ..?
I read an article once on a company in America who you can employ to clear out anything that you wouldn’t want your children or other half to discover. But would you trust a faceless company to clear out your search history?
“Dying is the most embarrassing thing that can ever happen to you because someone’s got to take care of all your details.”
― Andy Warhol
Can you imagine your teenage or adult children, your elderly parents or the boyfriend who doesn’t know about your secret sex industry career having to clear out your belongings and coming across your vibrating love eggs, vac bed or gimp suit? I have appointed a good friend of mine to be my eradicator once I have shuffled off to the great gangbang in the sky. She will inform colleagues, close social media accounts and dispose of or give away any of my NSFW equipment. I will do the same for her. This does also open up the question of why we feel the need to keep these things secret? After the awful E.L James 50 shades series, sellers of sex toys reported a large increase in sales of BDSM related products, we suddenly saw people more open to discuss and joke about a little slap and tickle yet for those who are into a little more than a feather duster and a blindfold it is still a taboo subject. Especially so for those who work in the adult industries, whether directly or indirectly, still feel that they have to hide their careers from their loved ones for fear of ridicule and prejudice. This must give them concern for what will happen once they have passed on, if they have gone to so much effort to hide these predilections in life then they wouldn’t want to be outed in death.
Another consideration for those who work in the adult industry is finances, if you sell content do you have someone who will either remove your content from clip sites or can access the profits to ensure it goes to whoever you have allocated? If you don’t want your next of kin to either be aware of this finance stream or to access to it then ensure it is stipulated in your will or that a trusted individual knows to deal with it right away.
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