Swingers retreat at Swingfields

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Greetings and salutations kinksters, I hope you have had a naughty week.

Well now that I have come back down to earth with a rather resounding bump, I feel I must tell you about the glorious weekend we experienced at Springfields. I wouldn’t say that camping is usually my weekend away of choice but to attend the UK’s only festival dedicated to the LGBT and Lifestyle Communities I made an exception.

This three-day event over the last weekend in June is exceptional, this year’s event, aptly titled ‘Sunrise’ was held from June 28th – July 1st and the entire weekend was a whirlwind of fun and frivolity. The programme of entertainment, from music to comedy, dancers to drag queens, was varied and always on point and the upgraded facilities made the experience that little bit more civilised for someone like me who prefers silk sheets to sleeping bags and 5-star hotels to tents.

The guests in attendance ranged in ages, preferences and personalities giving the festival a great festive atmosphere where everyone was welcomed with open arms and respect.

This exclusive, ticket only event is always the highlight of any swingers calendar and this year was no exception. If you haven’t been before then get your early bird tickets ready for next year as it an event you really don’t want to miss.

Surgery is open so how can I help you deviants this week?

Dear Dr Decadence

I have been swinging on and off for a few years and recently spent a lot of time with a particular couple, both at clubs and in private. This has been going well until last week. We were at a club and I was chatting a cute couple, the husband of the other couple, let’s call him Mr A did not look happy and kept trying to get my attention, I was polite but made it clear that I was busy. Couple B and I decided to take things further in a playroom and then after a few minutes I noticed that Mr A was watching (I don’t mind voyeurs) and he did not look pleased. I have tried calling and texting but never get a response. Do you think he was jealous?

Miss C

Hi Miss C

Well yes, it does sound like jealousy reared its ugly head and although he has no right to be jealous it makes sense if you have had a close three-way relationship with them. Was it ever discussed if you were only seeing them or if it was a more fluid arrangement? You don’t say if the wife was there or what her reaction was so maybe it would be better to contact her and ask what is going on. Or you could just chalk it up to experience and move on. If you attend the same clubs it could be a bit awkward the first time you see them but ultimately you should do what feels best for you. There should never be any jealousy in relationships that incorporate swinging or bringing a third person in, that goes completely against the grain.

Good luck with how you choose to deal with your situation and please let us know how it pans out.

I often ask people who write in to let us know the outcome of their situation, well J did get back to us, if you saw the column entitled Holidaying in Torquay, the swingers way then you would have read about J’s swinging club run with her neighbours who she had known since she was young, here’s what she wrote in back in May “I went to a swingers club last week and bumped into my neighbours. I am in my early 20’s and still live at home with my parents. I have known this couple since I was a kid and used to play with their children. I was in a group scene and didn’t realise it was them until it was over, I am not sure how much they saw or joined in but didn’t have penetrative sex with the husband I’m sure. How can I look them in the eye now?”

And here is her update:-

Hi Dr

So you remember my concern over possibly playing with my neighbours at a swinging club? I thought I would let you know what happened after.

I took your advice and bit the bullet. I went over with a bottle of wine and sheepishly asked if we could have a chat. They invited me in and over the bottle of wine (and two further ones) we opened up about our experiences and how we had got into the lifestyle. They were so lovely and although we all agreed that play partners would not be a good idea, they have introduced me to some lovely people and have become sort of swinging mentors.

Thank you so much for your advice, I wouldn’t have had the guts to go round without it.

I am now an avid fan.

Right then party people, until next time – stay decadent!