My Musings on Sex and Kink


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Greetings and salutations

I was reading an article the other day about how the extensive use of sexual terms and images available on the internet has increased teenagers exposure to such content and that this exposure has affected their impression of what is acceptable and how it will affect their relationship with sex later on. Now for the most part I agree with what the columnist was saying, that was until she moved on to kinks. According to this uninformed writer who I shall not name, being exposed to sexual images on the internet will present itself as deviant kinks in later life. If that were the case then why are there people now in their 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, etc … who did not have a technology overload as they were growing and who have diverse and deviant kinks? Psychologists have for many years tried to ascertain the cause for fetishes in adulthood and whether an individual’s upbringing is to be ‘blamed’ and as yet there has been no explanation. Other suggestions thrown around by the medical profession have been trauma, mental illness and both positive and negative parental relationships. As long as your fetish doesn’t hurt anyone and only involves consenting adults then why do we feel the need to pigeon hole people and make statements on where their kinks come from?

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“Being a single man interested in swinging is not always easy as lots of people look at you as a perv, I find it hard going to clubs as I have anxiety. Having read this column for the last few months I have found more confidence and realised I am not alone. Thanks to this I finally ventured out to a club at the weekend and I am so glad I did. I went to Jaydees as I was away for work and felt more comfortable not being local. The staff were really friendly and introduced me to other people who were new there. I met a lovely couple and had a great time, I would highly recommend it and have even stayed in touch with the couple so hopefully we will meet up again soon. Thank you Decadence. Mr J”

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Dear Doctor,

My husband wants to start doing porn, he is good looking and I think he would be good at it but I am worried how other people will take the news. I am also worried that although I support him I will feel jealous. Should I ask him not to?

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Hi K

It is very important that you discuss this fully before he embarks on the career change as it will impact on both of you and your lives. If you are comfortable with it then don’t worry about what others say as it is your lives to lead but that will only work if you are 100% sure that you are happy about it. There are specialist counsellors who work with couples to find the tools to get through situations like this and if you would like I can send you the details of one that I know. We all worry too much what other people will think when we need to be looking deep inside to what we really think. Good luck moving forward with this and let me know how it goes.

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