Hello Everyone,
Happy Good Friday, what sounds better than a four day weekend? A four day weekend with a lot of sex? Yes I thought so!! I hope you use your days off wisely.
Here are some things to fill your days.
Chantelle x
Use her clitoris wisely…………………..
You probably have a few great clit tricks up your sleeve, and you’ve likely made a woman orgasm this way many times. But are you doing enough to her clit? Seventy-five percent of women only achieve orgasm with some sort of clitoral stimulation, so you can never give that particular part of her body enough attention.
Surprise her tonight with one of these new moves, utilizing not just your tongue but also your lips, fingers, toys, the list goes on……
Suck and Nibble
You most likely have the licking down when it comes to using your tongue on her, but a move often overlooked is actually combing your lips and tongue to actually suck on her clit.
The sucking will also lead to blood flow to the vulva and the clitoris, kind of like a little vacuum pump.
The Alphabet
“The Alphabet” method of clitoral stimulation. It may have been the first oral sex tip you heard as a teenager, but it’s stood the test of time.
This is used more in the early arousal foreplay time, as opposed to providing that persistent and consistent clitoral stimulation that leads to climax. It’s a good way to take an A to Z tour of her vulva.
How’s it done? You can start by ‘painting’ the alphabet with your tongue on the wider canvas of her entire vulva, as opposed to on the tip of her clitoris. You can start with the A on the outer labia then cross the A on her clit and move over to the other side. It’s a great way to tease and tantalize.
Paint the Fence and Windshield Wipers
It’s fun to start by blowing your warm breath over her clitoris to get her going, then you can flick your tongue over her clit, alternating from up and down.
Imagine you are painting a fence from top to bottom, and then go into the windshield wiper move of using your tongue to go side-to-side.
Don’t Forget the Shaft
While a lot of attention is spent on the actual —the tip of the clitoris—the full length of it, which is estimated to be approximately four inches long, is sometimes forgotten.
Slide your fingers to either side of her clitoral shaft, pull and push the clitoral hood gently across the clitoris and move in circles, diagonals, and spontaneous un-choreographed fashions so as to stay unpredictable.
Use one finger flicking all around the clitoris but not directly on it. To bring your partner to orgasm, once she is at the height of pleasure, you’ll want to maintain a steady consistent stroke.”
Full Hand Massage
You know how you like your balls to be cupped? Now do that to her entire vulva with added pressure to her clit.
When you are laying next to her, wrap your hand around her vulva so your fingertips are pressed against her G-spot. The inside of your fingers are pressed against the clitoris with the base of your palm against her pubic bone. Then get into a rhythm of stimulation.
Bring on the Waterworks
I am not talking about vaginal ejaculation or golden showers here; water play is one of the first methods many women use to get off when they start masturbating at an early age in the privacy of their bath time.
When using a handheld shower head, let the water spray over her body in between her legs, then move it closer to her clitoris moving the water stream back and forth.
The Penis Massage
Another manual method is using your erect penis as a “human dildo” to rub up against her clit.
This is good if you are laying side by side facing each other, spooning her, or even on your knees above her holding the tip of your penis in your hand to massage and rub her clit, she can also grab your penis and use it like she would a sex toy on her clit.
Lip Service
Touching or sucking her inner lips actually pulls on the clitoris and it’s really useful for women whose clitoris gets too sensitive.
The clitoris has 8,000 sensory nerve endings, so direct contact can often be too much stimulation for some women.
Vibrators
Incorporating a vibrator into clitoral stimulation has benefits for both you, you can focus on your own pleasure during intercourse, and she can hold the vibrator and stimulate herself.
Arousal Oils
There is an array of arousal oils and balms designed to bring tingling or heating sensation to her clit.
Go slowly with trying these out, some women are too sensitive and the sensation can be too intense.
One week of sex
Day 1, have sex at odd hours, and only in places you’ve never tried before. Don’t break any public decency laws, but bring the lovemaking out of the bedroom and into someplace unconventional. And if you always have sex after 9pm, try it at noon. Not only will it make sex more exciting, you’ll become more aware of your partner’s desires.
Day 2, Write out a series of suggestive notes and leave them places you’ll know your partner will find them, like the bathroom mirror, or in the fridge. Start out tame and complimentary—“I can’t get over how stunning you look in the morning”—and amp up the heat with each note.
Day 3, agree to engage in 20 minutes of foreplay every day, with the only rule being that you can’t have sex. People want what they can’t have. So making intercourse off-limits will crank up the desire. If you break the rule, well that’s not really a loss, is it?
Day 4, Deep, tender, passionate kissing is one of the first things that couples abandon—but it’s one of the best ways to make your partner hot. Grab them in the kitchen when their busy making something, or the moment they walk in from work. They’ll probably be expecting a peck, but be pleasantly surprised when you don’t let them go after the initial lip lock.
Day 5, caressing your partners body may be among the fastest ways to turn them on, but long-term couples tend to skip directly to their tried-and-true gropes. Mix it up by slowing things down. Before you kiss them, gently caress their cheeks, ears, and temples with the pads of your fingers. Or instead of going straight for oral sex, warm them up slowly by kissing and licking little sections of their inner thighs.
Day 6, ok this one is just for a bit of fun, split a bottle of your favourite wine and try to hold each other’s gaze. The first person who blinks or laughs first has to share a naughty fantasy. The vino will take the edge off, but the nature of the game will make sharing less intimidating.
Day 7, Role playing can help your partner feel free under the covers, because they can put themselves in a different mindset, if you’re just starting out, arrange to bump into each other at a bar outfitted in ways you wouldn’t normally dress.
