Hello Everyone,
So this week we are talking about, new research that is saying maybe too much sex is actually bringing your mood down rather than up?
Also why sex after marriage is actually the best thing ever!!!
Chantelle x
Is sex making you sad?
After years of hearing sex is a great mood booster, science has gone and thrown a wet blanket in the bedroom by suggesting too much sex could actually be decreasing your overall happiness and mood.
Well apparently new research has found that too much sex can actually be a bad thing. Researchers studied 64 married couples and split them into two groups. One was told to double the amount of sex they had every week for three months and the other just stuck to their regular sex routine.
At the end of the three month period, couples were asked to fill out a survey about their sex lives and happiness.
The result? Turns out sexual enjoyment is tied to happiness, but sexual frequency is not and couples who had more sex were also more tired. Makes sense.
It’s worth keeping in mind that these couples were pretty much told (presumably by a stranger) to have more sex. And so they did, regardless of their mood. Kind of makes the whole thing chore-like, right? We’re guessing all those variables sucked a bit of life out of the party.
Couples also struggled to double the amount of sex they had, hitting only about 40 percent more than usual. Researchers suspect that not being able to meet their target could have made the sex less fun.
The most interesting thing in all of this is that it shows sex is about quality, not quantity. And sexual enjoyment had a huge impact on overall happiness. So basically, don’t worry about upping your numbers, just make sure when you are banging your partner, you’re making it count.
Make sex after marriage even better…….….
1. You can get it whenever you want it. When you’re married, sex is like the 24-hour Thai take-away on the corner — always opens and it comes especially in handy when you’re kind of drunk and just need it.
2. Morning quickies are much more likely. Sometimes pulling him into bed right after he’s showered is just the thing you need to get out of bed and get your ass in the shower.
3. You don’t have to worry about STIs. Assuming you fully trust your partner (which hopefully you do because you married him).
4. Once you’re done, if one of you wants to just roll over and go to sleep or reply to a text message, it’s not rude or the kind of thing you need to discuss with your friends immediately. Sex is absolutely still special and emotional and all that, but you don’t need a sense of ceremony around it all the time.
5. You don’t need to analyse your sex life with your friends. Because it’s just great (one of the reasons you married him in the first place) and just between you two.
6. He knows how to give you an orgasm with minimal if any instruction. So you can just sit back and relax instead of letting him try forever and wondering when you should give him the courtesy tap because you’ve had enough.
7. He doesn’t pull weird, surprising shit on you without talking to you about it first. When he’s about to come, he’s not going to randomly pull your hair and call you “mummy.”
8. You never feel tempted to fake it with him. If it’s not happening for you, you can just stop and resume the next day or whenever you feel like it.
9. You don’t feel like you have to worry about shaving/getting a bikini wax all the time. You married him because he’s not one of those douchebags who expects your crotch to be perpetually hairless. He loves you and doesn’t expect or pressure you to do any more in terms of hair removal than he does.
10. Weekend afternoon sex is basically the greatest. You’ve got a bed, nothing to do, and time to kill before going out at night. There’s nothing like doing it and then enjoying a little disco nap together.
11. If you don’t feel like having sex, it’s NBD. You don’t need to overanalyse it or assume your marriage is ruined. One of you can opt out from time to time without the other busting out the DSM and texting all their friends about what it means.
12. You quite often feel like proof that the stereotype that married couples don’t have sex is a bunch of crap. You guys are still hot for each other after years and years together.
13. After you’ve been married 50 years, you’re likely to start having more sex. Research indicates sexual activity increases after a couple’s 50th wedding anniversary.
